Things not to do

We have been mostly used to identifying the to do list. Although many places , procedures & rules will show you both to do & not to do list ; but in general in deciding our own deliverable we focus on to do .
There’s so much to do. Endless at times. Personal goals , professional goals . About yourself , family , career , team , society etc etc .
At times it’s easy to focus on other side of same aspect of the side you are looking if it is getting cluttered .
Make a “Things Not to do list”. The list would actually be shorter & you can focus on it like-
  • Not to eat junk on 3 weekdays .
  • Not to shout 2 out of 4 times when you get angry .
  • Not to waste resources . Switch off all lights , fans , AC when not required .
  • Not to keep on buying stuff whose requirement you are not sure of .
  • Not to waste food.
  • Not to spend more than a specific time on screen after back to home.
  • Not to sleep later than 11.00 pm in 2 weekdays .
  • Not to reach late more than once in a week .
  • Not to go home late more than twice in a week .
This list won’t be long & you can make it focused on the key things which are important to you . What do you think?

Are we trying too hard?

You need to excel.  You need to give your best to what you do. If you really want to do something, you need to go the extra mile to achieve it. You need make sacrifices to achieve your dreams. No pain no gain.

We have heard or been told this a number of times starting from school time to almost every time post that.

And we do it and keep on trying doing it. Sometimes trying too hard to do it.

Are we taking too many things too seriously?  Have we stopped experiencing the moments in life and have become machines to deliver numbers or expectations again and again.

So basically whatever we say, we all end up thinking and doing short term even if we know it what matters is long term. And most of us do it. Trying too hard. I did it till very recently till yesterday.

But then I realized that one very important thing was being impacted in this quest to excel and trying hard. Our actions do have impact just not us but others as well. Either in personal life or work life. It’s difficult to stay solo or in silo.

So, if we look at the bigger picture the impact is just not on us but all others directly indirectly associated with us.

It’s not just about winning but a win which brings joy and happiness for all involved rather than a burnout.

There is a thin line between giving up and taking a short break to rethink & review. So it’s okay to take a quick break sometimes and trying hard is not helping. Give a new perspective to things when are back after the break.