When you really want to do something it happens

So last week when I was travelling I wanted to take this ferry ride which was close to my hotel . But then it was quite late when I returned back previous night & waking early seemed difficult . I parked this thought of going till I get up in the morning, actually telling myself that this one happening seems difficult. Also I was trying to tell myself that since I am not too sure of how this thing works in a location new to me its fine if it doesn’t happen.

Incidentally the wake up call in the morning came as a blessing. Initially I felt really bad on missing on one opportunity to rest. But as they say alls well which ends well.

The fear of not knowing how to do things ( in this case taking a ferry ride alone in a new country) doesn’t matter actually when you really want to do something . So this was one of it . I read, enquired from the hotel staff & figured it out to the extent I could & rest I was prepared to handle .

This is a small incident & may not seem relevant if I just look into the complexity or rather simplicity of the thing. But as a person it made me realize that if you believe in something & take the initial steps; rest will fall in place . You gotta believe that .

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When too many things happen at same time

Its difficult to control how you react when faced with multiple things at the same time. Especially when it is on the ones least expected. But things happen. You cannot control that .

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What you can however control is the emotion on how you react.

It doesn’t get any better if its not in your control . Obviously you get crazy as you got to act on it.

  • So the first action on the multiple actions you are going to take is get control of how you react. This shapes a lot on what happens next.
  • Then take a brief break and write down these too many things. Sometime, we may find some solution in this exercise itself.
  • Even we don’t at least doing this will help you put things in perspective which will help in deciding the action plan.
  • Put your best on the plan you have decided.

Break the door if needed

Today we live in a world where there is no right or wrong in a number of things. Something which I might consider to be right might contradict with the belief of others.

Last week put me in a strange situation. I ended being a part of something which made me uncomfortable as to me it was wrong. But majority had taken the decision which was shared with me after I had expressed my disagreement to the proposed action.

They had their point of view and I had mine. Could I have done something more to avoid this conflict?

In life, we take some decisions keeping in mind the interest of majority. But if some actions does not match with our value system or thought process,  we need go beyond just expressing our view. We need to take firm stand on what we believe in, else these incidents will keep on becoming a lifetime baggage.

So, break the door if needed be; if you feel that what is on other side of door is not what your life values or thoughts align with.

 

 

I know it but still I don’t do it

I know I need to exercise but still I just don’t make time for this . Why ? Inspite of knowing that it is important but still this one doesn’t get the priority in the list of things I am doing .

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We need to eat food on time & sleep on time . But I don’t do it & know of a lot of people who don’t do it . Why ? Inspite of knowing it will have long term repercussions we still don’t do it .

 

There is no logical reasoning for this . We all are pressed for time & have multiple things to do. What really is happening out there is we are postponing some things which are not having immediate repercussions. What we are not realising is that the long term repercussions of the others would be on your health which we are ignoring as of now .

 

It’s high time we start thinking long term .

What difference does it make?

The way in which each conversation starts and ends, it does make a lot of difference. It doesn’t need to be a specific discussion. It can be as simple as your daily commute to work. How your travel to and from work turns out makes a lot of difference to multiple things.

Good experience in any form in these mini journeys create lasting impact. It can be how your co passenger in the bus, train or car made you feel. Or how the cab driver navigated well along  with striking interesting conversation which made you feel connected. That makes positive impact on you and your work day.

Similarly while coming back you get stuck in traffic and feel frustrated. More than you perhaps the person who is driving is frustrated. Some will keep cribbing themselves increasing your frustration. But some may still remain cheerful and feel concerned about you and ask if you have to face it daily. And then may be share their view on the problem or solution to it.

It may not solve anything but it does make a difference. By the time you reach home, although you lost time, but the good experience stays with you and makes you feel better.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Between two RIGHT.  

I was watching an old Tv series. The particular episode dealt with an individual who was in a job but wanted to pursue her interest in art . There was this other individual who are training her for this particular job she was in. One day out of frustration the first one tells the second that her heart lies somewhere else . The other one gets quite angry & tells her how this job is  important for so many others & she is holding back a spot of some deserving candidate . Finally the first one makes up her mind & call it quits to pursue her passion. She had backing of her family & she doesn’t have any financial obligations . 

We find a lot of people not liking their work or wanting to pursue something else but due to some obligations cannot or do not take the step. On one side they are holding back the spot which somebody else wanted badly. On the other side they are themselves also unhappy but can’t just leave it as they have obligations.

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Whether we should just because we have got something & be grateful as there are a lot others who want it , stop dreaming, expecting & working towards that or do we follow our heart.

So what is right & what is practical.

 

Room with a view

It’s a common practice that we insist on room with a good outside view while booking hotel/stay. When not insisting most of the times we wish for it . Even though we may be staying in the room for limited time and would mostly be out; getting a good view from room adds to our happiness. 

Well I keep doing it . That makes my holidays memorable . Good scenery outside sets the tone for my day . And have been lucky to get it most of the times. 

I didn’t get it in my last trip previous month . So I was in this beautiful city famous for its river & bridges.  But inspite of booking in a hotel located on bank of the river could not get room with the view. What I could see from my room Was view of glass wall of another hotel.

But next day morning while sipping tea sitting on the window balcony an interesting glimpse caught my attention. I could see the reflection of the bridge & river on this glass wall & it looked beautiful . The view was spectacular & covered a wide stretch of scenery which would otherwise be not available even on rooms directly overlooking river.

So sometimes it’s not what it looks on face of it. If you pay a little more attention , there are beautiful  things to be explored from a different perspective . Our lives are also like this . Things may not be happening in the ideal way we wish for. But if we look at them from different perspective then may find that there can be more than one ideal ways which could be better than the one we thought was ideal. 

Sunday at 8

It’s the Sunday morning . One of the best of the seven days when you are not in rush like the week days . You can snooze off longer & wake up late.

This Sunday I woke up early at 8 am which is actually not early but Better than what I had been doing for most of the Sundays I remember .

I and my little angel had a nice little walk & early breakfast . I could finish off a couple of activities I was waiting to finish . Finally could rest & spend time with family members . I could write as well & enjoy some TV time . Could have been made better if was not stuck in two three things due to technical glitches .

Nevertheless A lot in the day I was actually not expecting . So waking up an hour early helped pack a lot for the day & week to come . Hope to continue this week week.

Choice or No Choice

Have you come across a situation when you wished not having a choice would have been a better? That it would have helped you in decision making. Actually no decision but going by what is available. 
 
On a lighter note it comes almost every time when one has to decide on what to cook for the meal. Believe me it’s a difficult task in itself for those incharge of this activity. 
 
It was a difficult choice choosing between which of the three colleges to join with each offering a strong proposition. It was luckily easy on deciding whether or not to go for higher education after college or postpone it. There was no choice & I was clear that I wanted to start working immediately & be independent. So it kept on going & time passed. 
 
Then came the time when I entered the phase of motherhood. Some companies give only the minimum statutory leaves while some beyond that. I happened to be lucky to be one falling in the second group giving me longer time to spend with my baby. And then as the time to re-join was approaching closer, I was in two minds whether to join back the workforce or not. 
 
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At that juncture I did have the choice to may be postpone the joining a little further or continuing work. Deciding between career, childcare economics in current time and being with this little angel & be present to witness the interesting days & activities when they are growing up. It would have been  easier if there was no choice especially this difficult decision which all the mothers have to make.
Sometimes it’s difficult to decide when you have choices available.

Everybody needs a break

No matter what stage of life you are in and what you are doing, each of us needs a break.

Break from doing the regular that we are doing. The break may not necessarily be in form of holiday or vacation, but if you can take it in that form nothing like it. It should really be something which let’s your mind relax.

Before that let’s understand the reason why it is required. Although most of us know it but as certain things needs to be told even if we know it, so sharing my views on that.

There could be multiple rationales. Top 3 which I feel are:
1. We all need rest.
2. It nurtures our mind.
3. It helps improve productivity.

The world won’t stop if you take a break of couple of minutes in a day or couple of days in a year. But that time which would just be yours & would help you immensely to give the needed rest your body and mind needs. This in turn will give you a fresh mind-set which helps improve productivity with this renewed energy.

Most of us are busy in our busy lives meeting the challenges of the complicated world we all live in. We rarely get time. How to take this break?

Stealing 10 mins away from your daily schedule would be difficult at first. But if you view this 10 mins as important in your life as other aspects like brushing, eating and working; surely you will be able to make it. Spend those 10 minutes just being you, may be in a park or your bathroom or sipping coffee. May be just remain in silence, meditate, write, read, listen to music or just don’t do anything.

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You sure can’t read and write much in this 10 mins but isn’t it better starting to do it rather than not doing at all.

Some of us may be of the view that they don’t need or can’t take break. Just try it once and see the difference.